It's not about doing your share or carrying your load for you.  We are never supposed to take another's burdens from them only help shoulder the unnecessary burden they may be carrying.  So while God is there watching over you, he allows you to go thru the fire only enough to temper you just right, never to burn you out.  He watches over you carefully and when he thinks you're unnecessarily burdened he sends someone at just the right time either in word or deed just when you need it.  Never early, and never late. 

We should be the same way with our children.  We need to stand back and let them go thru whatever it is they need to go thru but when it gets to be too much, only then should we step in and lend the hand to help right that cart.  More lessons are learned thru the bad times than the good. 

So while Christ said to those who are heavy laden to come to him, he also said his burden was light...he never said it was non-existent.  He expects us to at least carry something; at least carry a load.  When we carry his load which is light, we can help another when their burden becomes too heavy. 

and remember the ones who write the poems quite often have gotten to the other side and are looking back. 

So out of curiosity...what do you consider "burn out?" 

And on another note, that is what (for me, my issue) makes it so hard to take.  I'd rather be suffering alone in a dark room, than be in it with someone who refuses to speak to me, or help.  Alone on the road, rather than being watched while I struggle.  It makes the suffering worse to know someone is there and can help, but chooses not too.  I get the whole lessons thing.  Yes I do it with my kids, but I don't stand and watch when they are really suffering if I can help.  I just can't do it. Truth?  Won't do it.  I don't consider it being a good steward.  

I think this is why some people believe in the clockmaker theory of God, that He set things in motion and just lets it all play out.  I don't believe this.  But I certainly can understand the point of view.

I believe rain falls on believers and unbelievers equally.  I just have someone to complain too, and ask for help (which is sometimes granted in miraculous breathtaking ways, and other times seemingly ignored).

Mostly I love God for who He is, not what He does for me.

Oh I understand that, and accept it as part of my faith.  But when trials come, as they do in everyone's life, for me, these questions bubble to the surface.  And they've never really been answered in such a way as to lay them down for good.

Maybe they never will be. 

I dunno.

Well, I couldn't help but think of it when KFC said,

True, the problem of suffering has confronted mankind ever since Adam and Eve's fall from God's grace  and across the board, suffering is an escapable element of human life for both worldlings and Christians.

But when it comes to suffering through trials in our lives, Christians are very different from worldlings.

Christ said, "Come follow Me." I understand that to mean the He carried His Cross and we are to carry our cross, meaning carrying our times of suffering uniting our crosses with the Savior's cross. In this sense suffering has great value.

As Christians, it goes to our dignity, to affirming our inestimable worth for even if we are totally broken in physical or mental illness, we still have inestimable worth. Our human dignity doesn't rest on our independence, but rather on our total dependence on the One who created us in His Image.

There is a Navy saying that calm seas do not make good sailors. Stormy seas challenge his full potential. So it is with a Christian's suffering if it is offered up to God for that's what gives our suffering purpose. It strengthens, purifies and matures our faith drawing us even closer to God with the understanding the God wills only our good.   

I call them worldlings because in St.John 17: 6-16 Christ makes the distinction as to whom He prays for and to whom He does not.....

I have manifested thy name to the men whom thou hast given me out of the world. Thine they were, and to me thou gavest them; and they have kept thy word. 7 Now they have known, that all things which thou hast given me, are from thee: 8 Because the words which thou gavest me, I have given to them; and they have received them, and have known in very deed that I came out from thee, and they have believed that thou didst send me. 9 I pray for them: I pray not for the world, but for them whom thou hast given me: because they are thine: 10 And all my things are thine, and thine are mine; and I am glorified in them.

11 And now I am not in the world, and these are in the world, and I come to thee. Holy Father, keep them in thy name whom thou has given me; that they may be one, as we also are. 12 While I was with them, I kept them in thy name. Those whom thou gavest me have I kept; and none of them is lost, but the son of perdition, that the scripture may be fulfilled. 13 And now I come to thee; and these things I speak in the world, that they may have my joy filled in themselves. 4 I have given them thy word, and the world hath hated them, because they are not of the world; as I also am not of the world. 15 I pray not that thou shouldst take them out of the world, but that thou shouldst keep them from evil.

Diamonds? Now you have me laughing and it feels good.