Ok, so I decided to create a new Chatroom, because the old one was getting pretty....old!
Everyone may post here, as well as in the good'ol Flameroom...I mean, Chatroom
I would like to keep this Chatroom civilized. Well, as civilized as most forum threads are (doesnt mean that you all have to be polite like Oatesy, lol).
So for this reason, I may update the OP of this thread in the future, posting certain thread rules, as I see fit.
For now though, post away, and everyone is welcome!
Currently these users are banned:
- ArcticBlunder
I prefer the old guard.
He was asking about things regarding Stardock's WindowBlinds program.....or ObjectDock. One of those.
Bla...
Why is it that the ONLY girl I'll ever want is infatuated with a guy who she knows doesn't like her back, yet she doesnt have any more feelings for me... Hell, I've even wooed a girl over the phone to the point where she's begging me to sext her the next time I'm single, but I can't get her... to add insult to injury, quite literally the SAME DAY I decide to ask out the poor girl who's liked me for three years, she texts me asking if it was true....then later says she'd date anyone who honestly likes her, regardless of looks or personality.
*sigh* I would honestly trade all the affection, attention and compassion the three to five girls who like me will ever give me for just one last kiss from Mishayla...
Xer0 \^/
I tried thinking of something to say, but couldn't come up with a whole lot. What I did come up with is very insensitive. But I'll say it anyway:
Just give up on Mishayla.
She isn't interested in you, from what you've told us. If your affection towards her is never going to be reciprocated, then there's only one thing to do:
GIVE. UP.
Whiskey seems to be in somewhat of a bad mood.
Even though what you are saying is true, try to be a little less blunt...
Say something like, it appears that you are in a temporary state of depression that happens to accentuated by the fact that the one person that you are truly in love with has lost interest in you. If you could possibly let her go, your depression would abate a little.
How's that?
Don't listen to these people Xer0. If you still think you're in love with this girl, don't give up on it. Although I do feel compelled to point out the irony in your statement about not understanding how she can like a guy who doesn't like her...sound familiar?
I won't bother giving you advice beyond that, or coming up with any sort of strategy, since you never actually bothered to try it out when I offered it to you.
Anyway, I thought you were dating her, WTF happened while you were away from the forums?
-Twilight Storm | Oh, and If I find out you're making this up to bring back the old atmosphere of the forums, I will bite you and give you rabies.
Grrr...why did I listen to the song WHY GOD WHY!!!!!!
Tell her how you feel about her, immediately. The longer you wait, the longer thoughts of you and her will be out of her mind, and the harder it will be to get back in. I need more infos about wtf happened to actually attempt to assist you further. (And it will be much harder this time around, some girls won't hook back up a second time after a breakup. Be ready for that, dude.)
-Twilight Storm | I mean it, RABIES!!!
I'm being blunt because at this point, I'm pretty sure that that's the only way he's going to get it.
So you're encouraging him to spend the rest of his life trying to get the attentions of a girl who by all indications does not love him back?
Bloody brilliant.
You have rabies?
........
That's new.
Giving up is never an option. If you give up, you'll never know how things might have turned out if you weren't a jerk-off and stuck with it.
Xer0, if you don't do anything about this girl and just whine about it constantly, you're giving up withoput admitting you're giving up. If that's the case, and you have no intention of actually doing something about this, then by all means, get over it. If you're serious, FIGHT FOR HER AFFECTION!!! DON'T JUST SIT THERE AND FEEL SORRY FOR YOURSELF!!! TELL HER EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL, EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT, AND FIND OUT WHERE SHE STANDS!!!
Even if she confirms that she has no feelings to return, you'll know where you stand and can form a strategy from there. If you think she's worth it, fight for her!!!
And get rid of that damn avatar, you're depressing yourself. Go back to your old one, you actually seemed to like it.
-Twilight Storm |
If she has no feelings for him, doing as you suggest WILL aggravate the situation, and possibly throw him into a horrifyingly worse depressional state.
More than that, get rid of it because it's pissing me off.
Insensitivity.
If you like the avatar that you have right now, Xer07, and you feel that we are being overly intrusive, you should probably stop listening to us...
Didn't Krdax used to be Syneptus? I've noticed a massive personality shift since you changed ur username...
If Xer0 didn't want input, he wouldn't post it here. He knows nearly all of us and how we'll likely react.
Based on the current information, I doubt it's possible for him to get more depressed. But giving up will extend the issue throughout his life, never knowing exactly how it could have been if he'd kept to it. Until she says there is absolutely not chance for anything to happen again, it's not over. (Maybe not even then, depends on if she means it.)
I have my opinion, you have yours. I'm helping Xer0 the best way I can, not debating with the two of you on whether or not I'm right.
-Twilight Storm
I keep my real personality as aloof as possible from these forums.
Really I'm a rather loud, obnoxious prankster who loves strategy video games far too much for my own good.
As Syneptus I tried to keep a rather random post strategy going, responding to everything with whatever popped into my head, as this was the personality of the character for a book that I wrote...
As Krdax Drkrun, now I am the somewhat methodical experimenter, recklessly trying to gain at least a minor mastery over every skill that I would like to have. Krdax is an old alien who studies anomalies and peculiarities in yet another story that I am currently writing. This story also happens to take the shape of a mod that I am working on for SoaSE, Sins of Project 91.
I hope that I am not too strange, but I would like to help anyone as best that I can with my meager experience in such, and I would like to put it out now, that I personally have never been in any love/sexual relationship in my life. I am working on abstaining until I turn 21, kind of a Mormon thing, I guess.
Feel free to discount anything that I say.
-edit-
I kinda guess that all of my forum personalities have facets of my own personality...
Whatever.
Is this the only place Xer0 asks for help 'cause more than likely hes not going to get anything worthwhile
Oh and since when is there a post strategy...Hmmm
If I decided to go and purposefully resurrect old threads with completely unrelated comments, that would be classified as a detrimental post strategy...
ah... now i know
I prefer blunt truthfulness. There is a point at which sugarcoating things simply doesn't work, and can even be detrimental.
I think that, considering the current situation, it's simply not going to happen. I mean, for them to form a lasting, committed relationship, marriage is the best option. It's not even a case of "let's get a piece of paper blahblah" or "let's declare our love to the world blahblah".
It's a case of "this is representing the fact that we are indeed committed to this relationship".
And to do that they'd either need to both get parental permission, both be emancipated, or both be 18+ years old. Ordered in increasing likelihood, mind you.
At this point, I think it would be far better for him to give up, at least for now, and maybe revisit it sometime in the future. Because right now this is simply too emotionally damaging to him for his own good.
I was under the impression that it was simply criticism, and not debate.
Anyways, IMO, I think we should find out where he lives, observe him in-situ (without telling him we're doing so), communicate via PM to discuss the results of said observation, and then approach him in-person to tell him what we have determined is best for him.
If we each have a different opinion, then we present said opinions.
Fairly obviously, this isn't going to happen.....at least not anytime soon.
There is a point where you can be so blunt that you are insensitive and then it might not get you anywhere either
Au contraire, such a point might be just the right amount of bluntness and insensitivity to get the point across.
I read that all twice, and I literally just heard Blah Blah Blah Stalk Xer0 Blah Blah...
Whiskey...you scare me sometimes...
It's not stalking. It's undisclosed observation.
EDIT: I'll further note that I was mostly joking about that. First and foremost, it's far too resource intensive .
What's so resource intensive? Realistically, you just need transport and munchee funds. (Maybe not transport, if he happens to livce near someone...I recall we almost had him tracked down once, then he disappeared from the forums for a while...)
Twilight: Allow me to fill you in about what happened between us when I was gone... we dated for about 6 months (her third longest lasting relationship, however, only half of her longest), and the first three months didn't have very many bumps. Of course, almost nothing happened in those three months as well. I decided to join our school musical, due to a shortage of guys, but also to show her that I could be fun and creative (given her nickname for me-which still persists, is buzzkiller due to my overtechnicality). During this time, we really fell off. I think it was more of her father leaving for Egypt in the army, and her mom being dysfunctional and me being helpless in the situation more than anything, but our relationship took one blow after another. Our first fight occured when I got tired of her constant complaining to me and asked "Don't you have anything positive to say". Things worsened over time, especially when she started forgetting anniversary dates, blowing off the poems I wrote her, and talking to me less. The final signal, for me, that she wasn't interested was actually during the musical. I had gotten superbly sick prior to the musical weekend (losing over 7 lbs to a week long puking fest, during which I could miss no school or else be banned from musical itself), but stayed the course, hoping her seeing me perform would boost our relationship back up. However... I learn later that she left before I got on state, complaining that "her little brothers had a cold, and she had a bad cough"... two months later, she leaves me on the grounds of "We never talk, we always fight and we never see eachother".
ANYWAY
I already told her I still had feelings for her....at our first prom, ironically enough. She went alone (for the first time to a school dance ever, I noted), but danced with friends. So for the first...eh...3/4 of prom I skulked around, talking to friends and making excuses for why I wasn't dancing until one of my black friends (a girl, who came with her drunk boyfriend), told me I had to dance. I told her I only wanted to dance with one girl, whom she accurately guesses, then has her drunk boyfriend force me to the dance floor to dance with her. So I do. When one of the slow songs (finally) came on, I told her that I missed her, to which she responded "I... I don't know what to say to that" about four songs later, Prom ended, and I was confronted by my black friend and her friends, them asking me what I saw in her, telling me she was a bitch, further telling me she was complaining about dancing with me inaudibly, etc. So yeah, the whole heart-to-heart thing? Tried and failed. ($200 gone, never attending a school dance again)
So, I've decided to vent my feelings by finding her the guy/girl who's her perfect partner, and as for me...I'll just fool around with as many girls as possible until I'm sick of them. Hell, in the past week, I've sexted three seperate girls. Already getting tired of that...
nonono Xer0 your not supposed to do some of the stuff you mentioned
Sigh...this is worse than I thought.
First off, I'm gonna completely ignore that last paragraph. (Mostly because It's irrelivant, though I also don't believe the second part...)
Anyway, It sounds like you've given up already. Did you follow up your statement to her after this prom, or did you just let it go at that? Because that was definitely an opportunity right there. She didn't respond one way or another, which means you caught her off guard.
As to how you two split up, you fell into the same hole I did. You grew apart(Although in my defense, I was two states away when this happened, but that's not important here) The "We never see eachother" bit was a bit enlightening. How come she said that, just a lack of opportunity, or was there interferance from some source? (Why did you never see eachother?)
-Twilight Storm | for losing the emo avatar.
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