My friend's dad says shooters like Call of Duty and Halo are pointless, so he doesn't let him play them. He also thinks that shooters will get him addicted and he will fail all his grades in school. Can you guys help me formulate an arguement that he can present to his dad in order to be able to play video games and shooters in specific?
P.S. My friend is 13, so he's definitely mature enough to play these games. And please dont spam, be detrimental to our cause, or in any other way be a moron on the forum.
THanks!
Age doesn't define the individual, it's rediculous to think that not only does his age determine his level of maturity, but to assume that the people who define the standards have the same moral goals as his parents. Personally, I don't know what the fuck these ratings are supposed to tell parents anyway.
TEEN Titles rated T (Teen) have content that may be suitable for ages 13 and older. Titles in this category may contain violence, suggestive themes, crude humor, minimal blood, simulated gambling, and/or infrequent use of strong language.
MATURE Titles rated M (Mature) have content that may be suitable for persons ages 17 and older. Titles in this category may contain intense violence, blood and gore, sexual content and/or strong language.
http://www.esrb.org/ratings/ratings_guide.jsp
If I had teenagers, the only two things I would be concerned with video games exposing them to would be drug use and prejudism. And though some times in movies they'll mention an R ratings is due to drug use, they still don't really give you enough information to make an informed decision. The movie Requiem for a Dream is Rated R for intense depiction of drug addiction... Pulp Fiction is Rated R for... drug use... but whereas a child could construe Pulp Fiction as advocating drug use, I don't think anyone could possibly confuse the strong message in Requiem against drugs. How does that rating allow a parent to make an informed decision about the content of a movie? The letter is pointless, it's a scapegoat for irresponsible parents.
Sorry for multiple posts.
Movie and game are different experiences yes, but in that regard movies are much scarier/bloodier and give a much bigger(yes my grammar sucks) feel of reality than games, wher you know that you controll it all. How many times have you been scared/startled in a game? Probably one or two times? Maybe you haven't been really scared in a game at all. For movies that number is probably higher.
Yes, and I argue that ratings for games are skewed. Maybe some pansy girl(sorry feminists ) will be scared by a bloody explosion in COD4, gamers will certainly not. For movies the ratings are ok, but for games like Halo(and COD4), its stupid. Yes, I played it, and I can't think of something that would be really bad for a 13-year old.
Also fear isn't always bad, I saw a M-rated movie about child soldiers, and I certainly was disgusted by it(wording?), as were my parents. But I didn't get nightmares of it, it made me think, really think about these issues. The M-rating was certainly correct, since other people would prolly react differently to it, but I fear or disgustion isn't always bad. If you don't see/do something scary once in a while, you'll grow up as a coward .
I'd have to disagree, a movie hasn't really scared me since I was 7, I watched alot of them with my dad, they get predictable, but the first time I played a Resident Evil game I had to pause after ten minutes to go turn all the lights on.
You mean you'd let a kid play a first person public execution? Nuclear Death from a ground eye view?
And let's not forget CoD5 - which features real live video of actual executions. That's something for the kids alright.
Actually, have you ever played American McGee's Alice? That game really creeped me out. It got to the point where I would only play it during the day, with all the lights on and I wasn't alone in the house... That said, I have an overactive imagination and horror movies tend to make me paranoid that somebody is trying to kill me. And I'm in my twenties...
But back on topic... There isn't really a good argument for being able to play shooters. They're a pretty mindless form of entertainment. You can say that shooters help with muscle memory, hand-eye coordination, strategic thinking and teamwork all you want, but the fact is there are other genres of video games (and other forms of entertainment all together) that involve some or all of the above, without any of the negatives of the fact that you run around shooting people or monsters in shooters. If your friend's parents think that shooters would have a negative emotional or mental effect on their kid at worst, and be mindless entertainment at best, then there's not much that will convince them to let him play them.
One thing to keep in mind, though, is that there tend to be exceptions to every rule. That's not always the case when it comes to parenting, because often giving way once paves the way for tearing down the rule completely, but it could be worth a shot. Find a game where the graphics and/or violence aren't very realistic; maybe even one where you don't shoot other people but just monsters (some parents would probably be more opposed to games that involve killing humans than monsters or aliens).
Whether they're right about not letting their kid play shooters, I don't know. There are arguments either way, but ultimately it comes down to the kid. And if the parents are good parents, and they know their kid well, then they're the most qualified people to make that decision (far more so than any rating agency ever will be, and definitely more qualified than their child). Unfortunately, not many kids think that their parents are all that good at parenting even when they are, at least not until they've left home and grown up a bit. Hence teenage rebellion...
Unfortunately, the supply of good parents falls real short of the demand...
I let my 14 year old have grand theft auto for his DS. He paid for it with his money, and I have reviewed the game manual. When I suggested the hot coffee mod he said "No, I don't like coffee". The point I "m making is I'm the adult, and I made the call. The store would only sell it to me. My enjoyment of computer games may have clouded my judgement. This may be your friends fathers point of view. If he's not into games or god forbid computers he will never think any game is worth playing.
Games don't create anti-social nerds, I got that way before I started on them just fine. Playing games doesn't get you addicted either. Yes, some people are fucked in the head and actually do get addicted to games. Reality isn't decided by the defects of a small minority.
If you really want someone to waste all their time playing video games, the key is to tell them no because you say so. As soon as they don't have to listen anymore, hello binge. Actual reasons that hold up under questioning are a necessary element of putting something off limits. It's why every dumb shit kid just has to touch that burner once before they figure out the whole hot thing.
Yes. We've all seen Saddam hanging no?(Oh, the civilized world).
Nuclear death? You mean some VIRTUAL burnt bodies? They are not real, and we the average teenager understand that.
I didn't play mcgee, but it sounds like fun actually. Could you elaborate why it creeped you out?
Psychoak: I agree.
P.S. Don't no know nothing about COD5.
I doubt that every 13 year old has seen Sadam hanging. You'll create some fucked up people by indiscriminately showing stuff like that to children.
Actually Call of Duty 4 is rated M correctly i think. The modern setting implies that a political stance in the game cannot be avoided that is relevant for today. CoD5 is about a part of history, that is another thing if displayed correctly.
CoD4 is just set in a fictional setting but very close to actual political situations. This is critical i think and it needs a bit of maturity and knowledge to be able to fully disconnect the game from actual politics. CoD4 just doesnt ask questions about the motives. You are out to kill. You have fun with it, it is cool because of the fancy equipment you are able to use that really exists. You view the world trough an black and white display and look at the huge explosions you cause on the ground with small toy soldiers flying around. Yeah it is that much fun and you almost forget it shockingly looks the same in real life. You control a kind of video game like device while the monitor does not reveal or plays down, that it is actual kids and families ripped to shreds down there. In CoD everything is easy. What you do is just plain right and fun, no moral questioning. Killing sleeping defenseless people in their beds? No problem, thats cool, thats war, man. These suckers all do wear beards and turbans, thats a legitimation, isnt it? If it isnt, calling them terrorists does the job.
What i wanted to tell you that there may be cases these games really can distort perception of things mattering in real life choices (like political decisions) and i believe it does need a psychological maturity to be able to disconnect enough from these influences. Especially the younger ones may not understand what i mean, having the opininion "of course i know its a game, why should it influence me?".Its the same with people saying "I know they want me to buy it, so why should i buy it because it is advertised? I am not affected by advertisement". Billion dollar commercial budgets speak of another picture.
I tell you that these influences do not have to be conscious in nature and are especially problematic in a part of your life where your character and personality still has to be formed by outer experiences and events. In some cases i do understand the ratings, in others not (like in the Requiem for a dream example brought up here)
As for the pointless argument... I would say staring at a wall doing nothing and being bored is a lot more pointless than playing games.
The main problem with the majority of M rated games is there is really nothing mature about most of them. Left 4 Dead I got for Christmas, only thing I would say is mature is the language used, and even that is not as bad as you would hear walking down a high school hallway. It is rated M for 'Blood and Gore,' 'Intense Violence,' and 'Language.' The first two in that list you would see more of by turning on the news... Nothing really all that mature, the story is pretty much non-existant being a zombie shooter. Take away the language and I would rate it T.
As far as being afraid of addiction, the FPS genre would be the one that is probably the LEAST addictive. Deathmatchs often only last 30 minutes at most, and FPS games are often fairly easy to get fed up with (especially when you get killed alot). As with any addiction though, gaming is a way for the person to escape from reality. If someone becomes addicted to gaming, it is more the fault of the parts of their life they are not satisfied with.
As far as getting scared by a game... FPS's are the most likely to make you a bit paranoid. However, many of the 'mature' games throw fast paced action at you, giving you more of an adrenaline rush than actual fear. The game which makes me get creaped out the most of all the games I have is my old 007:Nightfire. For me at least it is the quiet moments when nothing is happening that scare me the most; the feeling of being alone but being watched... That and rounding a corner only to see an enemy 2 feet from my face. Most of the horror type games are just one cliche scare tactic after another, which grows fairly predictable, large relatively empty levels are the creepiest IMO.
Bargaining is often a good method to start with. My parents wouldn't let me get WoW til I got my grades up, and they made me keep them up.
And for the argument about violence 'caused' by video games, I suggest they check their history books. Specifically, check for any wars before 1980 or so. I bet you will find a lot of them, even without video games. Violence is part of nature, and that will never change. It has no real single cause, it just... is. If parents aren't able to get the point across to their children that hurting others in reality is bad, that is because they are bad parents, blaming the games is just a lazy excuse for why they neglected their children.
Right, SO BACK ON TOPIC:
He's definitely mature enough, and lets face it people, I'm not talking about something like Gears of War or GTAIV, I'm talking about HALO. Come on people, this game was originally going to be T (until ESRB found out that the Marines swear a bit if you hang around them for too long just prior to the release of the Original Halo). And seriously, FLood Blood doesn't count for anything. Its like looking at a pile of vomit, which obviously isnt bad unless youre queesy. You have to really look for the blood in this game to find it. The only really bad thing is violence, which really is only a problem if you are 10 or below. He's not a very serious gamer either, He just beats the single-player and plays a couple hours of XBOX-Live every week.
And for COD, its the exact same thing, especially when you turn off blood and gore effects. Thats what I do too, and it just makes it like a T Game.
My final arguement against you nay-sayers is that it isnt photo-realistic like a movie. The fact that your actions are limited and there are minor graphical issues here and there shows that its just pixels. You'd have to be really immature to get scared or believe its real (except in the case of F.E.A.R. or Bioshock).
I'm not even kidding, he's probably smarter than almost all of you when you were at his age. So yes, he is potty-trained, can scratch his armpit better than a newborn chimp, etc.
And I also need an arguement stating that shooters are not pointless and stupid. Or an arguement saying, So What?
Yes, shooters are not the most cerebral of genres out there, but neither are MMOs, some RPGs, some sports games, and possibly CnC (considering you can just win the game through a tank rush). But still peole, its supposed to be FUN, and thats what recreation is about. Plus, if you tax your brain too much then it does have a habit of degenerating.
And for those of you who doubts this kid's intelligence and responsibility, I'll give you an example. We do a thing called Science in THe NEws for our Advanced Science Class. You basically type up a 2 page report on some recent scientific event. You are given four weeks. He does this on the first or second week it is given, as do I for that matter. And he consistently gets an A on this assignment. Additionally, he has an A in all of his classes, so I should think he would be fine.
As far as the social aspect goes, hes fine. He is a good swimmer and loves sports. He has got plenty of friends, definitely a fair bit more than me, since I spent a ton of time reading and learning, so I have a habit of discussing things people dont care about like Global Warming, Climate Change, Political Corruption, Etc. (which really bothers me, considering its supposed to be a gifted class, but then again I guess these people want to have fun in the short-term and haven't realized that they can make a difference even at this age).
So thats about it, keep at it people!
Additionally, for all of those who like to read, check out Hot, Flat, and Crowded by Thomas Friedman.
Its great.
'Twould be cool if Obama read it and implemented at least some of its ideas and policies.
You've obviously already made up your mind. What's this thread for then?
Glorious and holy slaughter in the name of the King. Warning: rated 3+
Best response so far and very true. My dad didnt go with those lame ratings. Sure he told me there was some stuff i couldnt watch and sometimes i got told to close my eyes when it got to gory. But he took time to watch movies with me and put em into a context.That went for alot of stuff. We used to go out with fireworks when i was younger, actualy bothering to teach me some respect around that. So when i was out alone with the friends it wasnt me who joked or dared about how long you could hold a lit firecraker(those that will remove fingers) in your hand becouse i knew better, i didnt go back to em either and i didnt light em in my hand.
I actualy remember once my dad, my little sister and me couldnt get in to see the golden eye bond movie becouse some guy checking the tickets at the cinema saw me and my sis was below the age limit. My dad got pretty mad about that.
I have to agree with Awac, you have a point. But the purpose of this post was to formulate an arguement which the child can use. Oh, and for the record, does Gears of War 2 have an option to turn off blood and gore? And what does it do?
I'd say his best bet is to try to make a deal with his father, tell him he will maintain a 3.0, or whatever, and explain to his father that he knows the violence depicted in the games is inappropriate for every day life, but that it's not an unreasonable ammount to allow him to be exposed to in light of his understanding of the fictious nature of it. And as far as the games being pointless, don't even try to argue the fact, but instead point out that if he does maintain an agreed upon GPA, then he's spending suffient time on homework and studying that he can afford to waste time doing something pointless.
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