For some people, marriage between two people of the same sex insults their sensibilities. (and that is putting it mildly!) It is religiously wrong, because they have some document that proves that it is wrong. It trumps their sense of right and wrong. All the implications that can be thought of for why this should not be, they will find it!
There are so many boxes that have been created in our lives. Everything we do and all that we represent fits in those boxes. You can't be a cirle and fit in a square box, that doesn't work. You're going against the grain, against all that is natural, known and dare I say holy? In essense homosexuals do not fit the roles or the boxes that we have created in this life! Not in our lifetime, not in our backyards!
Am I being immoral because I have no objections to people of the same sex marrying each other? Some people do think that, I have no doubt about that. Same sex marriage is not an abomination of marriage in general, or against God as some like to quote. Same sex marriage does not make my own heterosexual marriage unimportant or less than what it is. What matters fundamentally is the right of each individual to choose the path that is their God-given right to do.
Although the legal papers now says that these people have the right to marry whomever they choose, they still do not have the legal rights, all the rights that a man and a woman in a marriage do. They won't be able to file taxes together, they won't be able to get all the benefits that a man and a woman in a marriage can from the government, if they need it, because although the law says they are allowed to marry, they are still not equal or legal in every aspects of their lives.
The article I have linked above, written by John Cloud, defines and clarify some of the things the California rulings does or does not do with the confusion to many about Gay marriage.
Marriage between homosexuals doesn't take away our rights as heterosexual individuals just because two men or two women seek to marry each other, but those who object gladly seek to take away what is a fundamental right of each person, their freedom!
This is, without a doubt, the biggest load of rubbish I've read on this post.
Essentially, you're saying that I, as a married man who support gay marriages, am against marriage? How can you say this without even realising how many people you're offending? My marriage is extremely important and very dear to me.
How dare you try to devalue this so dismissively.
That is your opinion! You do not speak for me, nor me for you! Denying the rights of any individual is wrong! When does human rights enter into this equation? ONLY when you want it to? Only when you see it fit, because it has your approval stamped all over it?
Again, you confuse the issues, as Mason points out, but you do not listen because you hear only your voice. The law doesn't set out to put an end to Marriage of heterosexuals, or the sacredness of Marriage, rather the law seeks to give the rights to individuals who choose to have a partner of the same sex, human rights, not bestiality, nothing else that you keep inserting to make your point.
I have to put the little one to bed, not ignoring the other responses.
Lula, I don't blame Mason for responding to you the way he has because you are calling him an idiot, dragging emotions into it, questioning his thinking? I don't understand that at all? Of course we all get emotional thinking about something we feel strongly about, however, there is thinking behind our responses, for you to suggest that he is not 'using his head' that's not acceptable!
I asked who does it really bother, because whose business is it really if these people want to be married, or committed to each other in a civil union? If what they have we lable it as marriage, is it our business? Should the courts be dragged into it? They should not have been dragged into it from day one, they should not have been involved from the beginning because Gays should have the rights that all men and women do! Why should they be treated as separate, and not equal? It is what our country as been known to do from its' existence (I should say the people)! Cut off individuals rights to fair and equal living, opportunities, until they have to change with the times! Until they, the courts get involved because they have to in order to uphold the rights of each individuals. The rights of Gays to marry is so much bigger than their rights to be married! It proves what our country is, free, and fair to each individual that calls it home! To consider the rights of each individual, their freedom!
Perhaps you can answer this for yourself, because you seem intent on making some point that is supposedly over our heads? IN the first place, I think Tom, Dick and Sally would rather play together than get married!
I just don't get why an heterosexual marriage is deemed wrong, unsacred and forever affected by two men or two women getting married? Saying what you have Lulu, again, so totally insultive!
In essence what they have done, is allow the civil rights of a few thousand people, who couldn't get any otherwise!
First, sorry for mangling your moniker, I kept referring to you as Lulu instead of Lula (the short form of your name).
Second, there you go again, we are not seeing eye to eye, so on with the implied insults! I believe that I have discussed the points I was trying to make, as well as listened to the opinions of everyone who responded to my blog because they had an opinion as well. Too bad you have to do something like this!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality_in_animals
[quote]Let's look at the laws of nature. We're just animals. How many other animals look for a mate of the same sex? In nature, sex is used for procreation http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homosexuality_in_animals[/quote]
Thx for the link Loca! I would have mentioned what I've seen with my own eyes as a child growing up around animals that sometimes they do the strangest things, one of them humping another of the same sex! But I might have been accused of making things up!lol!
Actually, America used to be a Democracy. We used to adhere to "majority rules" and make laws for the majority (for the people, by the people, is a majority act, not an individual act.) America was fonded on Christian values, and Christianity is still the leading religion in America. However, we have degraded our system over time and now have the bizarre reasoning that every person has the right to live exactly how they want to. We no longer adhere to the way that our forefathers established this country, and we have started to make minority "rights" become more important than majority rights.
The problem is- if a person's "rights" affect my "rights", who should be denied? If my right is to raise my child in a traditional. American society, how come a majority can step in and take tradition away by declaring that they have the right to be legally recognized as a sexual deviant? Explaining to my daughter why her friend has two set of parents is hard enough, but having to explain why a friend has two Dads who are "married". No thanks. I prefer to keep Homosexuals in the same "sexual deviant' bin as Polygamists and the like are thrown.
It saddens me that America has lost so much morality. We hold nothing sacred, and we've become so concerned over each individuals right that we have lost perspective as a nation- a nation that used to be a Democracy.
Well, I have to say, saying "fuck you" to anyone is probably going to upset them. Not sure it's appropriate to say that to anyone, even if you don't like them.
Having Gays get married bothers me, too. It's a slippery slope.
If Gays have "rights" why don't polygamists? Why is polygamy less natural than homosexuality? Considering there are more women then men, wouldn't it be natural to see two women with one man in a relationship? What is the women are bi? Shouldn't they have the right to enter into a relationship with each other and a man of choice?
Where do you draw the line? How come one group of deviants have rights over another group?
No one has yet answered how, tangibly, gay marriage would effect them. The slippery slope is a logical fallacy but I could certainly see polygamist asking for the same right. I really don't have a problem with polygamy ether, if some guy falls in love with a bisexual woman that has a girlfriend and the girlfriend falls in love with the guy, let' em get married and color me jealous. Polygamy is fairly rare outside of cults anyway, jealousy is just too strong an emotion.
If someone wants to marry an animal, fine as long as the animal can legally become a citizen, sign their own name and say "I do " they'll have my blessing.
I think you already know my response to this Lula. Let's just agree to see things the way we each want to see them.
Ohhhh, I'm in trouble! You know, you can't win them all!lol! Sometimes, some feelings are hurt along the way!
I totally understand and see your point. For me, I have briefly explained to my daughter when she asked, that some people like other people who are just like them. It was as simple of an explanation that I gave at the time because she won't fully grasp it all at her age. My son I explained the same but then I said, some people dont like the idea of the same type of people being in love together. That's as far as he wanted to know right now. I won't give more than I know they can handle, and need to know at this point at their age. My oldest now fully understands what is what and what I've thought her have given her the knowledge to make the decisions she does. She has friends who are gay, are aware of the implications and all that. The differences between the ages, 6, 13 and 18, is on a need to know basis, and only when the question is asked because of something that was heard, or seen. I do tell them their are some things they don't need to know right now, some programs they don't need to watch and that I wouldn't approve of and because we communicate we I know that they have a level of understanding that they can comprehend. In saying that, I dont' say you don't communicate (or anyone else) with their children, but this is how I deemed to handle it.
And as our country must change with the times, as we grow as a society, some concessions have to be made so our society can live cohesively. We can't always be as it were in the days back when because our world is different than it was 100 years ago! Why shouldn't our laws be updated and upgraded? It's not a matter of letting our country go to the dogs, so to speak, it's a matter of making room for what our world is now. It's not just one way of thinking, one set of people who exists anymore, it is all types.
I can't speak for Mason, but I do understand why he said it! Seriously!
You want my honest answer on this? I really don't know how it would affect me because I can't see in what way it would? Other than that some have pointed out, it may raise my insurance or my taxes....? I'll bitch and moan then I'll still have to pay. I can't seriously see how it would affect me, other than me telling my kids, sitting them down for a talk! I should hope they would be as open-minded as I am and that's how I'm growing them to be!
I have one God who sees all and knows all and judges all! I cannot be the judge of all, but I can make a difference in my life and everyone's who I meet. If I can't see a person without judging, and I'm not perfect, I'll tell you, I stereotype as much as the next person. However, I do leave an open mind to the 'what ifs' out there!
I also don't come from a line of very open-minded people when it comes to gays either! My birth country, Jamaica, is a nation of people who are as conservative and judgemental and will 'crucify' you for being gay! That is the truth! They do not even tolerate the thought! It's sad. There are gay couples there but they also have a fight on their hands as much as they do here, even more so!
LOL! You are such a crazy person!LOL! But I hear you! Dang if the animal can do that, we are no longer on Earth!LOL!
Oh, I can see why somebody would say it, but I still don't think it's appropriate. In all my many many years of online communications, I have never said "fuck you" to anyone. It's not like she said something equally horrible to him. It may have been condescending, but I don't think she deserved that treatment.
Our country is changing alright, and it's not for the better. Detroit is now up to over a 50% drop out rate before graduation. It's a city that has been given all sorts of political concessions due to minority appeals. Its schools receive special funding, they have special programs for the minorities, we bend over backward for them. In contrast, there are schools in small, mainly white areas that are struggling due to funding. They have less than a 2% drop out rate, but the government keeps pushing money to the minorities instead because the minorities are in "trouble".
Once democracy is no more, we will realize how making concessions for minorities and minority interests affects the majority. I guess I don't understand why people aren't seeing the full cause and effect of the situation that America is getting into. It's not improving with the times, it's simply giving in to the times. It's not a good trend.
No, actually, you should read again the entirety of what I wrote. America is not holding on to what was sacred. Individual rights are not sacred. If that was the case, every single person would have individual rights. That isn't possible, and it is not what America was founded on, anyway.
America was founded on Christian morals and principles. America also was founded as a democracy. Are you saying that Gays being allowed to marry is Christian? Is ruling in favor of a minority, or making special cases for a minority Democratic?
I'm not Christian, and I don't believe in "God", but I do believe in the way this country was founded and I truly believe that we are destroying our country by conceding to minority interests.
You can say that Gay "marriage" shouldn't "bother" anyone, but it is really just one notch in the belt of society's degradation.
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